What do women envy about men?
List around 3 things.
Larch Lee:
1. No Unwanted Monthly Visitors - Men don't have to suffer the menstrual cramps that women have to go through for days every month. Men can buy themselves an extra side dish for days instead of spending the money to buy napkins/tampons. Men don't have to hand wash their bed sheets when "red tide" happens.
2. No Strings Attached - Men can have sex with women and not be emotionally attached to them. Most women can't have sex without wishing for it to be more than just that.
3. No Harm Done - Men can just say sorry and will expect everything to be okay or for everything to return to normal. While women say sorry but will still feel eternally guilty and will try to make up for it again and again.
Dannie:
1. No monthly period and PMS.
2. They can only have one set of work clothes for one week.
3. They can do with only 2 pairs of shoes.
4. They can eat lots of food and not worry about gaining weight.
Ar-jaie:
1. Men can have soooo many women in their lives and it is considered as an accomplishment.
2. Men don't have monthly periods and PMS
3. Men doesn't have to go through labor pains!!!
Fall In Love or Decide To Love?
Which is better: Falling In Love or Deciding To Love?Ar-jaie:
hmmm... Mag-taglish ako dito. hehehe. Let's look first into this, one at a time, then we decide.
Falling In Love is without planning to or intending to and you fall for somebody, whether you are sure or not that the other person will catch you. Andun ung risk of unrequited love, ung walang kasiguraduhan, ung element of surprise... but the excitement and challenge is also there parang pagkanakasakay ka sa roller coaster. Falling In Love may sound a little immature, pero you can really feel the being "high" and being so "low". Falling nga e, paglaglag. =)
Deciding To Love is something that happens as time goes by. Pagkadevelop sa isang taong mabait sa yo, o pagkadevelop sa isang taong napatunayan mo nang mahal ka. Pang-sigurista ang dating. It's like you decided to love the person cause they have already proven their worth. Parang at one point, consciously you would think, "why not".
I've experienced both... one is no better than the other... kasi ang ending is laging LOVE... it doesn't really matter how it started... whichever of the two would be better if you just know how to make the most out of it. =)
What do men envy about women?
List around 3 things.Larch Lee:
1. Lunch/Dinner Therapy - Women get more out of these meals than just reconnecting with pals and sharing a sinful dessert. They’d take time to tell each other everything in their lives that had happened since their last encounter and pay attention to personal stuffs. Women manage to make a wrap sandwich and a bottle of mineral water last as long as a four-course meal and a bottle of wine. Men are not exactly sure about what transpires during those long meals but they must figure it must be very, very good.
2. Bathroom Haven - After having a rough day, women can just slip into a tub of hot water with the flower-scented bath bombs foaming and releasing their relaxing flowery aroma. Or go have a nice pedicure or facial. While men can just say "Damn it, just once we’d like to sit for hours in nice-smelling water with our eyes closed, listening to Norah Jones. We wish we could walk into one of those shopping mall nirvanas of immersion with their hundreds of soaps, oils, lotions and candles and buy out the place for an orgy of bathing. Instead, we hop into the shower and scrub down with Safeguard." Yes, more men are becoming metrosexual these days and enjoy the abovementioned things too but there still is a no doubt greater number of men who are not.
3. Fountain of Life - Children grow inside women, come out of women and proceed to get their food supply from women. Men soon realize that they had their big moment when they delivered the sperm.
Dannie:
1. We can cry (e.g., in sad movies) without being called a sissy or gay.
2. We can be so open about our feelings to our girlfriends.
3. We can always blame it on PMS!
Ar-jaie:
1. Women can be sweety-sweet to their girlfriends, without being pre-judge as lesbo or whatever. They can chat as long as they want... as often as they want.
2. Women can cry openly without really caring about their egos.
3. Women can ALWAYS as in ALWAYS be sure that the kid is theirs... because kids are from them.
Intelligence or Common Sense?
Is intelligence or common sense more important? Choose one only.
Larch Lee: If intelligence means "the capacity to acquire and apply knowledge" while common sense means "sound judgement not based on specialized knowledge," then I'd say Intelligence is more important. If a person doesn't have common sense, he can make it up by having enough intelligence. He can use his intelligence to learn whatever he needs to learn to make sound judgement. While if the person has common sense but doesn't have the ability to acquire and apply new knowledge, that person won't get too far. Having common sense will not be enough to see you through all of life's challenges.
Ar-jaie: hmmm... I'm not quite sure how to answer this. In reality, one cannot live without the other. but for the sake of the question... If I will base my answer with Larch's definition of Intelligence and Common Sense, I would say I agree with her... but, if I can rephrase the question with: "Pagiging Matalino o Pagiging Maabilidad" and equate "Pagiging Matalino" with Intelligence and "Pagiging Maabilidad" with Common Sense, I would go for Common Sense (Pagiging Maabilidad). With being "maabilidad" one can live their life eventhough they are not educated enough.
Best and Worst thing about being a Man or a Woman
What is the best and worse thing about being a man or a woman? List around 3 each.
Ar-jaie: Best thing and worst thing about being a woman? hmmm...
Best Things of Being a Woman:
a. Women are stronger than men in facing problems. Women might be "iyakin" but they don't need to be drunk to be able to face their problems.
b. Women play a vital role in the miracle of life.
Worst Things of being a Woman:
a. Menstruation
b. Labor during child birth.
c. Women are often victims of discrimination and "double standards".
Larch Lee: Best Things about being a Woman:1. The joy of child birth.2. We know how to solve our problems by simply eating chocolates.3. Women are naturals at multi-tasking. (e.g. memorize shopping list during an important business meeting; shaving legs while making pancake - just don't mistake the shaving cream for the whipped cream; etc.)Worse Things about being a Woman:1. The pain of child birth.2. The pounds gained after solving a problem. hehe!3. The pressure to keep our home lives and career in perfect balance. Bcoz if we can't keep it balanced, people will expect us to give up our careers to take care of the home.
In your personal opinion, which religion do you think is best for mankind?
Try to answer the question without bias to your current religion.
Ar-jaie: I don't think there is a "best religion", in the first place, each religion have its flaws. That's one thing I don't understand with the existing religions around the world. They impose rules which are a bit of exaggerated and stupid and discriminating. I am a catholic, but really, they have some stupid rituals and beliefs. In my personal opinion, the only thing important is our FAITH. As my religion teacher once told me (outside the classroom), Religion alone can not save you, you have to have FAITH. Larch Lee: I heard from someone before that in Thailand, there is a Buddhist temple there which also have a statue of the Virgin Mary, of Hindu gods and religious icons of other major religions. When the monks were asked about why they have them there, the monk said that it's because they also want to show their respects to other religions. And apparently, the monks and worshippers of that temple make it a point that they try to know and understand more about other religions and learn to appreciate them too. If that is true, I'd say that is the best religion. One that doesn't consider other religions as "outsiders". One that doesn't consider their own religion as higher or better than the others. One whose main purpose is to promote harmony among all mankind, of all religion. I don't know if what that Buddhist temple is doing is actually a part of the belief system of Buddhism or maybe it's unique to that specific temple only. But I take my hat off to whoever thought of doing that in the first place.Dannie: Larch, If there is such a religion then that would be my answer! If not then I don't think there is a specific religion that's best for mankind. And as long as mankind remains selfish, no kind of religion would save us!
What's the best hang-out place you've ever been to?
Larch Lee: I've got two favorite hang-out places. One is at the Velasquez Park at Salcedo Village, Makati. It's nestled in the middle of expensive condo buildings and office buildings. Most of the people you'll see there are "yayas" (maids) with either their "alagang tao o hayop" (charge or pet) and some people who reside in the surrounding condo buildings. The park is big enough to host a play ground, picnic area, a couple of benches and the the perimeter is enough to jog around on. It's also small enough to be cozy. The other place is my own room. I've got everything I need there: a comfy bed, a reliable cable tv, a generous supply of food and water ... I can lock myself in there for days at a time without any complains.
Ar-jaie: Dami din!!! hehehe... I'll enumerate some. So, if you want to find me look for me in these places:
a. Starbucks (G4, Edsa Shang, Valero, L.P. Leviste, GB3 o kahit san na me starbucks!)
b. AMF Puyat Billards at Starmall, EDSA
c. G4 Food Choices, Glorietta, Makati (when I want some time alone sketching, and writing)
d. G4 Park, Jaimie Velasquez Park (L.P. Leviste), The Park in front of Makati Shang. (when there is a need to chat and heart-to-heart talks)
e. Powerbooks GB3 and Powerbooks Tower Records (when I am desperately in need to escape from my life)
What's the best dining place you've ever been to?
Larch Lee: If the criteria for the best dining place is the quality of food, service and atmosphere. Then I think the best place that I've been to so far is Circles Event Cafe of Makati Shangri-la. They serve buffet and a la carte. I've only tried their breakfast buffet and I commited glutony. The food was good but I enjoyed their Indian selections most because I missed it too much. The interior design is "classy modern retro". The place's color motif is bright orange and white on black background which to me is retro. The table settings and the dining sets (from the napkin rings to the plate chargers to the white square plates to the modernistic design of the salt and pepper shakers and coffee pots) gives the place its modern look. And since the the interior designer was able to blend together the retro and modern look of the place perfectly, the overall ambiance of the place is so classy and chic. And notice the bright orange and black sneakers, funky earrings, and nicely done color highlighted hairs of the waiters. Circles not only offer the standard breakfast, lunch and dinner buffet but they also offer a midnight snack buffet! Great for after gimmick hunger! The food selection is extensive and yummy. They've got Chinese, Pinoy, Indian, American, Italian, Japanese stations. They also have pastry, salad, fruits and carving stations. They serve buffet breakfast, lunch, dinner and even midnight snack.
Ar-jaie: The best? hmmm... hirap naman! I have been to too many places na e. I can't really say which one is the best, for each place have their own identity that makes them "BEST".
1. Ka Lui, Puerto Princesa, Palawan.
2. Sentro, Greenbelt 3, Makati
3. Circles, Makati Shangri-la
4. The Jeepney, Intercontinental Hotel, Makati
(... dios ko limot ko na ang iba sa dami e hehehe)
What if you had ONE more question to answer before you pass away, what question would you want it to be and what's your answer to it?
Larch Lee: I want the question to be "Are you happy with the way you lived your life?" And I hope I can say "Yes, very happy. I've done what I wanted to do in this life and had a blast with it. I have a family that loves me unconditionally and I know that they will always be okay in all aspects of life (healthwise, money-wise, etc) once I leave this mortal world. My life has been enriched with all the things I've learned from all the people I've met and from all the things I've been through. I've also passed on what wisdom I have and gave what help I can to those who asked for them. Yes, there has been a lot of ups and downs in my life. But I can't say that it was too bumpy a ride for me to enjoy it because I did."Dannie: This is too scary for me... =)
Ar-jaie: The question might be "Tapos na ba ang mga Change Requests? Tapos na ba ang second Phase ng Project?" and I would really love to answer "Hahaha, ndi pa, bahala na kayo sa mga buhay nyo ngayon!" hehehe. So sorry with the superficial answer, it's just what I am feeling right now. hehehe.
How would you want to be remembered when your "time" comes?
Bonus Question: What would you want to be written on your tombstone?Larch Lee: I don't care how I'm going to be remembered by other people as long as I'm remembered from time to time. May I be remembered fondly or in a bad light, it's already good enough that I'm remembered because that'll be a validation of my earthly existence. So to make sure that I'll be remembered ... I'll come back haunting people for fun. Hehehe! As for my tombstone, instead of the typical Date of Birth to Date of Passing, I want it to be "Date of Birth to Date of Passing ... To be continued."
Ar-jaie: I don't know how would I want people to remember me... Honestly, of all the good and bad things I've done in my life and to other people, I can't keep track of how people would see me. Base on my testimonials in friendster, it's nice to know that my friends value me that way... but they are my friends, how about those people whom I met, and never really got the chance to be friends with? well... that's one of the things in life you cannot control... other people's thoughts and feelings...
when I was younger I used to say "Pretty Joyce" is what I want my tombstone says, pero parang mas ok yung "Rebellious Free Spirited Missy..." corny hahaha... actually, I don't have anything specific in mind pa, that's why in case I'd drop dead in 5 mins, I'll just stick to that na lng.
Dannie: I wan to be remembered as someone special. A person who have touched peoples life in one way or another. And I want people to say that my life was not wasted and I have lived a full ilfe.
Do you believe that God and the devil made a wager on the soul of mankind?
Rykiel: I do believe that God and the devil made a divine wager for all the souls in the world. God's highest goal is for His creatures to love Him freely. He has therefore chosen to limit His own power in order that we might be able to exercise free will in choosing to either love or reject God. Dannie: Nope, God would never make a deal with the bad guy! =)Larch Lee: Because I'm too tired to think deep thoughts right now, let me cut and paste an answer to the same question from a web forum with which I kindda agree with. "Yes, I think God and the devil made a wager for all the souls of mankind. Let's remember Job's story in the Bible. God was so proud of his servant Job that He bragged about it to the devil. The devil said the only reason why Job served God was because He was good to him. So God and the devil made a wager - the devil could do anything to Job short of killing him to see if Job would curse God for his suffering. We all know the story. Job's children, his properties and even his health is wiped out by sickness and calamity. His wife and three friends tell him to 'confess his sin', curse God and die because they couldn't stand his suffering. Even then, Job didn't turn his back on God, believing that God was faithful even if his circumstances showed otherwise. In the end, God fulfilled every one of His promises by giving Job twice more than what he had before in riches and offspring. I believe God and the devil still makes wagers for every soul on earth. It happens everyday - to the unwed mothers, the fatherless sons, the rape victims, the streetchildren, the people who lost their homes in the typhoons, the OFWs separated from their families, the employees who get retrenched or work in a low=paying, dead-end job - it's a wager. It's a question of how much are you willing to stick to your beliefs even when the odds are stacked against you and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. In the end, it's not what you have or don't have, it's what you believe and are willing to live and die for that will determine the outcome of your wager. by: vedzone@yahoo.com"
Ar-jaie: Maybe or maybe not. God is so proud of mankind that he can brag it to the devil and the devil would want them to bet on it. But then, maybe not, Lucifer is just his subordinate they are not equal to be playing bets with him.
What would you attempt to do if you know you could not fail?
Larch Lee: In a larger scale, I'd "attempt" to become a superwoman and do anything and everything to make the world a better place. Fight crime and injustice, alleviate poverty, promote world peace (or intergalactic peace), get rid of all nuclear bombs around the world (and keep some for the sole purpose of bouncing meteors off their earth-bound paths) and find the cures for cancer/AIDS/etc. In a smaller and more egocentric scale, I'd "attempt" to veer off from my IT career and become a highly successful restauranteur/chef of my own top-notch restaurant/bar/club.Dannie: FLY?! =)
Ar-Jaie: I would climb the highest peak, I would swim the deepest sea, explore the world with all the adventures and danger it offers.
but at this very very very moment, I would make my officemate sane! and my other officemate learn his office decorum!
Dream Vacation
If you can have 2 months vacation and money doesn't matter, how and where would you spend it? For short, what's your dream vacation? Let your imaginations run wild!
Larch Lee: Travel is one of my passions. I want to be a global nomad. I'd go and live anywhere and everywhere if I can. But my goal is really to go backpacking through all the countries that are the Cradles of Ancient Civilization before I die : Egypt, China, Iraq, India, Africa, Greece, Mexico/Guatemala (Aztec/Mayan), Persia (Babylonian), Rome. But I should probably not go to all those places at one go, one after the other coz I'll be overwhelmed for sure. Information & emotion overload. So if I have to spend the 2 months vacation at one go, I think I'd go backpacking through Europe and the Mediterranean countries. And since money doesn't matter, I'd prefer to check-in at clean and homey inns instead of the cramped & dirty bedspace inns that backpackers have to endure in. I'd also want to bring a National-Geographic quality camera crew with me to film my travel logs and edit them into a documentary afterward as my keep-sake.
Dannie: My dream vacation is to go to all the places that the Reality TV show "The Amazing Race" went to and do all the exciting things they did in each country! I want to sky dive, bunjee jump, swim with the dolphins, ride an elephant, rapel down the tallest structure in the world, ski, etc etc etc! In short I want to experience the world first hand... but before all the adventure begins I want to relax in the island paradise of Amanpulo.. 3-4days will do! ahh that's livin' THE life! =)
Ar-jaie: What I really wanna do is to explore the wonders of the Philippines, before finally go abroad. I guess, if this two months is just the 1st among the many chances... I will go first around the Philippines: Palawan, Siargao, Davao, Bohol, Sagada, Boracay... it's endless... Mt. Apo, Mt. Halcon, Mt. Pulag... then, after that... ask me again... =)
Tick-Tock-Tick-Tock . . .
If you can dictate how many hours there would be in a day, how many do you want it to be? Why?
Larch Lee: If I'm dying, I would ofcourse want more hours in a day to do whatever stuffs I want and need to do first before I say "me ultimo adios" to the world. But if I'm not dying, I'd rather there be just 18 to 20 hours a day if that also means shorter work time. So, if the day would be shorter, being an 80 years-old person would be so natural since the year would also be shorter. Hmm ... am not sure if I want to live til 80 though. That still seems like an awful long time.
Dannie: If the number of work hours remains 8 hours a day then I want to have 28-30hours a day. More time to sleep, watch tv, workout, and hang out with friends! =)
Ar-jaie: I hope that the number of hours a day is adjustable, so, if I were to spend that day with that someone I love or if I'm in a very beautiful place, I'd want it to be as long as 72 hours a day. But if we are not together or I am just plain tired and lonely, I would want it to be as short as 10 hours, every day is a new beginning.
Rykiel: With my kind of lifestyle, I would have 32 hours in a day. I'll break it down into 8 hours for work, 8 hours for sleep, 8 hours for being a full time mom and another 8 hours for doing the things I love, be it in solitude or with friends.
Workplace Romance ... Agree or Disagree?
Ar-jaie: Workplace Romance? I agree! Why? I would know what he's doing and he can't give me some b*llsh*t excuses about work. (Did I mention that I was such an insecure gurl? *wink.)
But of course, the good part, I get to see him anytime I want to, I just have to walk a few steps. The stolen kisses and if something bad happens at work, he is immediately there to comfort me (I don't have to wait for the end of the day!).
Dannie: I would have to Disagree! Being in and keeping a relationship is difficult as it is and if you combine it with the pressure of work then it could get worse. You don't only can have petty fights about the relationship but it could also be about work! Plus, if you're not always together, you tend to miss each other and look forward to having dinner or going to the movies or simply just hanging out. I guess you appreaciate each other more because of that. And I think as long as both of you are mature enough and you love and trust each other then, not being together all the time will even strengthen your relationship and your bond/love for each other.
Plus if your honey is not in the office you can flirt a little with your hunky colleague! =P hahaha! just kidding! i'll die of jealousy if he'll do the same (that is to another girl ok). I guess this does not apply to everyone, and having someone special in the workplace does have it's up and downs (flirting, stolen kisses, winks here and there, quickies [j/k], etc etc), but, experiencing it personally, i'm more on the "disagree" side... it's not like I have anything to hide but I'd like to keep the mystery! =D
Larch Lee: Disagree! Though yes, it could be quite exciting for some time at first. But in the long run, I bet you'd reach a point when you wish you or your sugar-pie-honey-bunch can get another job somewhere else, whether you'll admit it or not. Seeing each other for hour after hour everyday will do that to you. Plus, the darker side of having an office romance is to have co-workers thinking of conspiracy theories between you two depending on your work designations. Like if you're in HR and your honey-bunch is an employee, if he gets salary raises more often or more than the others, what do you think the rest would think? How about if your honey-bunch is a boss and you're his secretary? Get the drift? So, romantically speaking ... office romance is oh-so-good. But reality-wise, it's oh-no-good.
Rykiel: I would certainly disagree. Being with him the entire day at work, then going home with him at the end of the day isn't appealling at all. I find excitement in knowing that when we sit down for dinner, we have something to talk about. I could rant about my unrealistic deadlines, annoying officemates and I could also rave on my accomplished tasks, or just simply listen to what he has to say. Another thing is since we're not together in the office, we would have to wait before we could cuddle up and hit the sack. It definitely heightens our intimacy and it makes us cherish these moments.
First Question...
Has it ever happened to you, that all you have wanted to say was YES but then, you said NO? Why? What are your reasons?
Ar-Jaie: Hell YEAH! hmm, almost 5 years ago, I should have said something like YES but I was too "ma-pride" that I said NO. Why? Because, I thought I was not ready then, and I thought it's there to stay. I thought it will wait for me to be ready. I thought that one day, the question will be presented to me again, but then again, up until this very moment, I AM VERY WRONG.
Larch Lee: Say No to something I wanna say Yes to? Yeah, a couple of times. But not to super major stuffs though. Just to 'not so major' ones like better paying job offers, gifts, etc. I take accountability for any decisions or actions I make. So that I won't have to blame anybody else except myself if there's any regret in the end. I don't know about everybody else, but for me, it's kindda easier for me to forgive myself than to forgive others. Reasons why I said No? Either I don't think I deserve the gifts or that somebody deserves them more or will appreciate them more than I ever will. Either I think that the job offer is very attractive at first but won't be enough in the long run or that I decide to stick to my current job for the sheer hope of 'maybe someday, things will be better here'.
Dannie:A lot of times! As the eldest in the family, let's just say I've had my "unfair" share of sacrifices! =P But not only in that aspect, of course I've had to make decisions in my studies, career, relationship with others, etc etc. And there could be a hundred and one reasons why I said NO instead of YES. But as of now, there's none that I regret doing. And that is the most important thing.
Rykiel: It happens to me most of the time, but only to simple matters such as hanging out with friends over coffee, having a girls' night out, going to places for vacation and etc. How I would've loved to do all of these things if it weren't for my little tyke. I have accepted the fact that my priorities have changed and I'm glad to keep it that way.
